Premature ejaculation is a condition in men defined as achieving orgasm before you want to.

Usually men who struggle with premature ejaculation reach orgasm in or around sixty seconds after penetration; sometimes orgasm is reached even before any penetration takes place. Premature ejaculation can be about a lack of control, but it can also be caused by other factors.

What are five things you didn’t know about premature ejaculation?

  1. It’s a Fairly Common Problem

Although many men with premature ejaculation concerns tend not to seek help, experts estimate that it’s a fairly common problem among men. It’s speculated that struggles with premature ejaculation have affected every man at some point or another. Premature ejaculation can be learned when men are young and sex is a thing to be hidden or orgasms are naturally achieved quickly. They then can experience difficulty learning different behaviors when they’re with a partner.

  1. It Could Be Temporary

As men gain more experience having sex with partners, issues with premature ejaculation may subside. However, they may stay. Premature ejaculation is often about having body awareness and connecting with your partner. It doesn’t matter how fast you achieve orgasm as long as both partners are satisfied. In order to ensure that premature ejaculation is a temporary problem, ask your partner if he or she is satisfied with your sex life. There are things you can do to overcome premature ejaculation and last longer during intercourse.

  1. Relaxation Is Key

Many times, premature ejaculation isn’t always about sexual stimulation. If a man is anxious, depressed, or overly excited, this could lead to achieving orgasm quicker than is desired. Staying relaxed during sex is key. There are things you can do to help stay relaxed, such as taking deep breaths, which help to slow your heart rate and keep you in the present moment. Also remember that drugs and alcohol may help you relax short term, but they’re not addressing the actual problem and can actually make you more anxious.

  1. Sexual Position May Help

Another thing you can do to stay relaxed is try different positions. When the man is on top, this can create extra stress and strain due to him having to hold his body up. Try to have intercourse with your partner on top. This is an easy way to stay relaxed and prolong orgasm. Try different positions in order to find what helps you feel the most relaxed, and communicate your anxieties with your partner to see if he or she is willing to try different things to help you enjoy sex and alleviate anxiety about premature ejaculation.

  1. Treatment Is Available

Besides different techniques you can try at home, there is also treatment available for your premature ejaculation. You could also have an underlying medical issue that could be causing premature ejaculation. It’s important to visit your urologist to ensure you’re healthy and to get an exam. Your urologist can discuss your concerns with you and talk about what you can do differently during sex. You have many options such as medication, masturbation (which can help you to prolong orgasm on your own and even last longer with a partner), and other techniques that can help you to delay ejaculation.

If you struggle with premature ejaculation, don’t be embarrassed about seeking help. This common condition is seen by urologists often and they know how to help. Discuss treatment options to discover what would work the best for you. Remember to stay relaxed, communicate with your partner, and enjoy the experience!